Reducing tiresome while parenting your toddler

Many women and men cannot describe how happy they are for having adorable toddler. They are very proud and always want to do the best in parenting their toddlers. What about you? Yes, your entire world will be brightened with the existence of your toddler. But, one thing you have to note is you will face very tiring days. People with no experience in parenting the toddler will never believe that it is very exhausting. Why? It is tiring because you need more energy, more awareness, more speaking, more carefulness, more patience, and of course more works to do. Your brain need to work harder and more accurately than before.

After grooming your toddler in the morning, you are supposed to be ready for feeding her. Then, you will spend the day running after for her. If the weather is nice, you may ask her to play outside or take a walk in the play ground. There is a chance that she will be a little bit cranky. You have always to keep your eye towards her to make sure she is safe and does everything well. Since your toddler is supposed to be active, you need to think of the ways to avoid boredom. Once she gets bored, she will start crying and does want to follow your direction. Remember, you still have the household chores to do, right? What a totally exhausting day.

So, what to do then? Choose the activities that need less energy such as reading books or drawing. You need to prepare books, crayon, and drawing book. These two activities can be done by sitting in a couch. Or you can prepare small table for coloring and drawing activities. Another option is asking her to sing or memorizing a song. Indeed, this makes you speak more, but you do not have to walk or run around. Keeping your toddler active is very important, but you need to have a little time for having a cup of tea, take a rest for a moment, and do household chores.

Loving is not the same as spoiling

Your lovely and adorable toddler will always make you surprised. She learns and creates new things every day. This makes you miss her so much when you have to go to the office or even to the grocery. Many parents explain that they even cannot concentrate at work because they remember the little princess at home and wondering what she is doing. Missing your toddler is normal but you should not act too much. The facts show that parents usually show their love and miss trough spoiling the toddlers. They do and buy whatever the toddlers say simply because these parents feel guilty for leaving the toddlers at home. This is completely wrong.

Loving is not the same as spoiling. Loving means you give what your toddler needs properly. When she does something good, she deserves to get rewards. On the other hand, your toddler should be punished when she does something bad. Reward and punishment should be balanced to make your toddler learn about good behavior as early as possible. However, it is forbidden for you to give physical punishment. It does not work at all to punish her. It will make her imitate what you have done to others. There are many educative punishments you can apply to your toddler.

Never feel guilty too much for punishing or timing out your toddler. These are the steps you will keep doing as the part of loving your toddler. Both you and your couple have to agree the systems applied at home. In case you hire a nanny, you need to make sure that the nanny has the same path with you in loving your toddler. No more chance for spoiling her because it gives negative result in your toddler’s future.

Parenting the toddler needs cooperative and coordination

You must be very happy for having such a lovely toddler. She is the adorable one that you want to kiss every time. In parenting your toddler, you and your couple have to be in the same path. It means you have to apply the same parenting mode and style. Some people think it is impossible because mother and father have different characters and style. Applying the same ideas and methods seems to be impossible.

Actually, it is much possible and easy to apply. You need to discuss many things with our couple from the simple things until the more complicated ones. For example, you and your couple need to be cooperative in handling your picky eater toddler. Many toddlers avoid vegetable on their diet and choose to have sweets and chocolate. To face this situation you need to be cooperative with your couple that both of you will eat vegetables in front of your toddler. She will look at both of you enjoying the delicious veggie. By doing this she will gradually follow your habit. Sweets and chocolate can be given once or twice in a week, or as a gift when your toddler has done noble things. You and your couple have to follow the rules which have been agreed before.

Once you or your couple breaks the rules, she will understand that the rules are breakable. Even the simple things like saying “thank you” and “sorry” need to be put in the rules. Both of you have to explain when and why she needs to say these words. Moreover, discuss the parenting style and ideas seriously, so that both you will find the parenting formula applied for your toddler. Besides, you need to plan the proper rewards and punishment as the consequences. Also, do not forget to inform your parenting style with the toddler’s aunt, uncle, and grandparents. By doing this, you have started to invest something good for your toddler’s future.

Avoid anger in handling cranky toddler

Where ever and whenever you go with your toddler beside you, both of you will be the people’s attention. They love to see cute toddler especially the ones with good behavior. But of course, you will feel that educating your toddler to behave nicely is not easy task. Many times she will be a little bit cranky and does not want to communicate to you. It is relatively normal and happens in many families. Commonly, parents will got angry and panic when everything does not work as what they have planned before. Being angry is the biggest no no in parenting your toddler.

If you are angry, your toddler will automatically think that anger is the correct way to solve problems. Your toddler is getting cranky perhaps because she cannot express what she wants. Her vocabulary is limited and she does not know what to say. So, she gets frustrated. What you are supposed to do first is giving a big hug and talking calmly. Say your words one by one to soothe her feeling. In case she keeps yelling or crying, you should keep silent. Your toddler will slowly finish her crying.

However, if she gets cranky because of asking something improper such as too many sweets, toys, and others, it is better for you to try to switch her attention to something more educative or her favorite items. This may work for several times. In addition, you need to be consistent. It means when you say no for certain things since they give negative effects, you have to keep say no. Once you say yes, your toddler will get crankier. Giving time out will be fine and you will see how it works after applying for several times. It does not mean that you are doing something bad, but you are on the way of educating your toddler. Keep being positive and of course, no more anger.