As parents, of course you cannot have total control on your children especially your teens. You need to work and do other activities. If you are too busy and cannot manage your time for the family, you are the one who will get the disadvantages. In this stage, your teens need you more because they are on the transition era from the children to the adult. Being teenagers makes them need more support and mentoring. Remember the time when you were teenager and how your parents treated you. Today, you have to promise yourself that you are going to be better than your parents.
Then, what you should do? A good option is being your teens’ friend even their close friend. If you think it is impossible, you are wrong. Being your teens’ friend is possible as long as you have good communication skill. Why don’t you go online and see what films do the teens like nowadays? What books are popular? What topics are good? What songs are commonly sung? Who are the teens’ idols? What games are interesting? What sports are challenging? What clothes are trending today? And surely there are many more questions. Those are the basic teens’ interest that you should know for the conversation topic. When your teens know about that, they will feel you are beside them and be their friends.
Most teenagers do not like to go or hang out with their parents. They feel it is not cool anymore. So, this is your duty to make hanging out become nice and cool. Why don’t you ask your teen and his friends to go camping on weekend? Or you can ask them to go to the nearest lake and fish there. Outdoor activities will be so lovely and make you tighten the bond between you and your teen. Additionally, you can also know your teen’s friends and communicate to their parents. Another plus of course! If your teen like cooking, ask her and her friends to drop by and enjoy the favorite family dishes. In this case, you have lots of ideas to make sure you are one of your teens’ friends.
Parenting the teens can be your new challenge after your children grow up. You will see many changes on your children behavior and way of thinking. You also need to gather more information about teen’s behavior and its issues. Ask your friends, read books and sources, go online, and even join the support group for parenting the teens. All of them will make you ready with the changes of your teens. Perhaps, some parents think that all of them are not necessary to do because everything will happen naturally. Well, in this case you need to know that parenting the teens today is far more different compared to a decade ago. What happens today is not the same as what happens in your teenager era.
That is the basic reason why you need to prepare. Another reason is what you have faced during your teens era is completely different with your teens’ era. Life is more complicated today and technology has developed significantly. It does not mean that you need to know the entire technology, but at least you know how to use and apply technology for avoiding your teens from its negative effect. Knowing technology means you can be in line with your teens. There will be interesting discussion and conversation, and even you may ask your teens to teach you something. This makes the bond between you and your teens become closer.
Preparing earlier means you are ready to fill the gap between you and your teens’ generation. You will be able to know what to do and behave to face the different behavior of your teens. You have to be ready in accepting reasons, making solution, and dealing with problems. Accept that your teens are half adult so they need to be treated as half adult also. If you have gathered information before, there will be no significant problem in parenting your teens maximally.
Guiding and watching your children grow is such a bless for every parent in the world. It seems everything happens so fast until you do not realize that your baby now is a beautiful teenager. Many parents spend the time looking at the pictures and remember what had happened few years ago. Yes, when your children have grown into smart and active teenagers, you will be very happy and proud. However, you need to be ready with the new habits and behaviors of your teens. Some of them have new challenging hobbies and like to hang out with friends. Meanwhile, some others seem to be more uncommunicative and have their own world.
Basically there is nothing wrong with those teens behavior. But you are supposed to control them to avoid the negative behavior and activities. It is important for you to think positively and see your teens’ actions from positive point of view. For example, you do not have to be panic when your teens like to hang out and go home late. Hang out means they learn to communicate and be a part of the community. They are among the others with the same hobbies and interest. As long as they do not behave negatively such as spend too much money for hang out or start drinking alcohol, you should not be too worry.
There will be a time when your teens will go home late. At the beginning, you must be very worry and perhaps think something negative happens on your teens. Try to text your teens once to know the reasons. If they reply your text, you can be calm down. At least you know that they are fine. But, you are not supposed to call or text them many times because they may feel you interrupt or disturb their activity. Remember, teenagers commonly start to be friend oriented, not parents oriented. They start to be shy to hang out with you. Understand this situation and make sure you keep having good communication with your teens.